About
Tessa Cain
When individuals grow, organizations transform. Built on over 30 years of leadership and professional development experience, SELF-M³ Consulting Services helps leaders, teams, and individuals develop deep self-awareness and confidence. Through the signature framework—Self-Manage, Self-Modify, and Self-Monitor—clients receive the tailored coaching and guidance needed to take full ownership of their growth. The goal isn't to tell people what to do, but to help them discover exactly what they are capable of becoming. Reach out today to talk about your goals
Why Trust Me?
Certifications & Methods
John Maxwell
Jim Knight
I am a member of the Maxwell Leadership certified Team of Leading Significance. Through this framework, I focus on helping you build actionable leadership principles to expand your personal and professional influence. My goal is to confidently inspire you first and then you turn your team toward shared success.
I utilize this high-impact instructional coaching method to equip leaders and educators with the habits needed for deeply empathetic listening and communication. Together, we will foster collaborative, partnership-based relationships that drive steady growth and positive institutional transformation.
Crucial Conversations
Cognitive Coaching
I teach you how to navigate high-stakes, emotionally charged discussions with absolute alignment and psychological safety. I will provide you with practical tools to speak persuasively without driving others to defensiveness, turning potential workplace conflict into productive dialogue.
I have been fortunate to have independent hands-on training and workshops with Cognitive Coaching. This type of coaching works to enhance an individuals thinking process through reflective dialogue, structured questions, and guided self-awareness. This supports the individual, enabling better decision making and personal growth of where they want to be.
The SELF-M3 Logo
The Story Behind It
This has been a long process throughout the last 15 years of my career dreaming of this opportunity. I want to give you the reasoning behind it. I chose the colors blue, purple, and green for symbolic reasons.
The color green symbolizes growth to ensure you thrive in day to day life.
For purple I connect it to the Spirituality and Wisdom across many cultures and belief systems; violet hues are strongly tied to mental growth, spiritual awareness, and the divine. This color represents enlightenment, deeper consciousness for understanding of your SELF.
Royal blue symbolizes nobility and importance. The rich color represents elegance (human behavior showing a composed manners under pressure or in difficult situations) and trustworthiness (being able to identify your morals, values, and beliefs within your SELF).
You need to ensure your SELF embodies these qualities. The parenthesis around the formula represents to group the terms together and prioritize your calculation before any other operations. Which is your SELF!
My Philosophy
You are not your past. You are not your circumstances. You are your choices. Choose to grow. Choose to lead. Choose to become your best SELF.
